As I sit here going on day 12 without being able to see and talk face to face with my children it makes things really clear on why they are such special beings that can often be taken to much for granted. For those parents out there, it is probably very rare that you will ever be away from your children for an extended period of time until later in life when they are grown and moved away. You might be reading this saying if I only had 12 days like you without my kid’s, life would be so great. And don't get me wrong, yes the break is nice but in the same vein, the silence can be deafening.
Kids while special in their own right tend (and in reality do) sap all available energy from you with their needing of constant attention, fits of rage and sadness when things are not quite right, or their constant question after question because they want to learn something new…and yes they are sponges and are constantly learning from us both consciously and unconsciously. Whether we think it or not, they see and hear everything! We are teaching and they are learning even if we are not intentional about it.
As adults we just want them to be perfect but the definition of the word is loosely defined. We all know deep down that they will never be perfect. Because why should they be? We never were and I am pretty sure that to even this day none of us are perfect and never will be. But as parents and adults, It is our duty to shape their lives to the best of our ability and guide them to make smart informed safe decisions that will no doubt carry them well into life. Our kids learn from us very early and well those habits are never broken. We are a bi-product of our parents upbringing.
When we see kids misbehaving, we often question the parents ability to parent. It is real easy to sit on the sidelines and make the call but when in the game the objectiveness of decision making is thrown out the window and your kids are going to do what they want to do. So even as grown adults, we are still children to some and our parents will always see us in that light just as we will always see our kids as children know matter how old they grow to be. As parents I think we will always wish they would be different in some respect and would do things how we would want them to. But in reality, that is just not reality. They are after all individual beings with a unique genetic makeup and if they came with an owner’s manual, well where would we be able to use the word dysfunctional?
So I keep this post short and sweet…a little time away from your kids is nice but it will make you see them in a different light. And as soon as you are back together again, it is easy to get right back into the old habits. So keep this in mind when those old habits start to surface…with each passing day that goes on, that is one more day you don’t have with them any longer. You never get that time back. Period. In the end when they throw you a curve ball (and they will) that you were not expecting, just love them for who they are and say nice pitch. You may learn something. And if you read this and say well not my kids, they are perfect. Just tuck this little ditty into the memory banks and shoot me a note when you all of a sudden have to replay it…because you will.
The above photo was taken a few weeks back. What sweet little boys. If you could only have seen these 2 right after I snapped this photo…I longed for the break I am having now but I am ready for it to be done.
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